Hi strikingknife,
1. Please download the integrate package below and reference to the document in the package to integrate with sharepoint
http://www.cutesoft.net/download/CuteChatforSharePoint.zip
2. Refer to http://www.cutesoft.net/ASP.NET+Chat/Developer-Guide/scr/Load-Balancing.htm to set up the loadbalancing environment
Regards,
ken