Hi,
I think you are this condition :
1. you have an application .
2. the application have it own user table, and friend table.
3. you want to the data from the friend table automatically display into the Messenger.
I suggest you upgrate to CuteChat4 .
Because this product is much faster for IM and would not make your server too busy if the users start chat.
And the CuteChat4 would support more for your case .
If you want to choose CuteChat4 or continue use CuteChat3 , please tell me.
I will help you integrate your friend table .
Regard, Terry.