charlie666,
For a dedicated server, Cute Chat can support 2000 concurrent users. Cute Web messenger can support 4000 concurrent users.
If you have more concurrent users than above, you need to add more servers (using load balancing) or choose a java chat.
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Web Messenger: http://cutesoft.net/Web-Messenger/default.aspx
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asp wysiwyg html editor: http://cutesoft.net/ASP
asp.net Image Gallery: http://cutesoft.net/ASP.NET+Image+Gallery/default.aspx
Live Support: http://cutesoft.net/live-support/default.aspx