>>when a user comes into the room or goes out, i just need to make the tab flashing, but not comming in front of any other window... Is that possible?...
No.
>>disabling it on the control panel, it still comes up when a user comes into the room or goes out,
If you disable the focus in the control panel, when a user comes into the room or goes out, no window will come out.
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